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Married to Andrea since 1982. We have 9 children together and none apart. Our dog's name is Tebow.
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After finding and remediating mold twice in our Colorado home, we abandoned ship in October 2008. Because of the high levels of exposure, our entire family was affected. After months of seeing different specialists for all of the problems, we came to Arizona to begin comprehensive treatment to rid our bodies of the toxic buildup. In August 2009 we moved into a larger home, four bedrooms, south of Tucson, north of Mexico. I am doing my daily radio program/ writing from that location. Thanks for praying for us. We really feel it.

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Thursday, June 25, 2009
This is from Dr. Michael Easley from the program today, 6/25/09.

What Would Happen If I Lost My Integrity?

Establish my footsteps in Your word and do not let any iniquity have dominion over me. Psalm 119:133

1. I would have lied, sinned and offended God.
2. I would wreck my marriage.
3. I would lose all ability to minister.
4. I would butcher my credibility with ______________ Church
5. I would ruin my alumni relationship with ___________________________.
6. I would disgrace ________________________, and all who have trusted me.
7. I would spoil my relationship with people of influence.
8. I would damage every relationship I have.
9. I would lose (my husband’s / wife’s) ________________ love and support.
10. I would lose my husband’s / wife’s trust for the rest of our lives.
11. I would scar (my kids) ___________________ for the rest of their lives.
12. I would never replace the relationship I enjoy with (my husband / wife) ________________.
13. I would deeply disgrace and insult my in-laws.
14. I would deeply disgrace and insult my parents.
15. I would ruin any credibility with all the counseling I have ever done.
16. I would never escape the guilt and regret.
17. I would lose my “job.”
18. I would negate any ministry or testimony I have had to the divorced & remarried.
19. I would offend, hurt, betray and cheapen my dearest friendships with __________________ and many others.
20. I would never want to face anyone from (former churches, Christian ministries…) _____________________.
21. I would have betrayed the trust of all the staff from (churches I’ve worked with) _______________________.
22. I would have betrayed a trust given to me by the elders of (churches).
23. I would find it impossible to remove the mar in my relationship with the Father.
24. I would forever look back & regret the stupidity of my decision to sin.
25. I would never find “fulfillment” in anything.
26. I would fuel the fire of “nay-sayers” and unbelievers.
27. I would have scorned the high-call/high-privilege that has been entrusted to me.
28. I would insult the credibility of the gospel of Jesus Christ.


Anonymous said...

My husband and I are about to begin ministering in the pastorate for the first time. We are in the process of writing down expectations and boundaries as a family and as ministers. I've added on Dr. Easley's list in the back, so that we can refer to it as well. As a side note, I just finished reading Francine Rivers book "And the Shofar Blew." She paints a picture of an adultrous pastor's journey. Very sobering - God protect our service to you!

Anonymous said...

I love this, helps me see I've done so many things on the list already. And He still loves me. Also helps me put into perspective the narrow road I want to remain on. Thank you for posting this list.

Anonymous said...

I am hoping that in the future you could touch on the subject "what happens after the divorse". To be brief: My wife met another man, divorsed me and got remarried.
This whole process caught me somewhat off-guard. I knew we had our problems, but 20 years of marriage and four children should have counted for something.
I believe in the marriage covenant (which I believe is eternal) how do I, or can I, enter into another covenant, should I desire to, when it would seem like the right thing to do is still honor my existing covenant, regardless of wether the other person honors it or not.
If marriage is a shadow of Christ and the Church, then by His Word we know that He honors and upholds our Salvation regardless of the state of the believer - it has been established through Christ as an everlasting covenant.
It's been almost ten years. I have cried out to God for answers. It's not that I am inpatient - I just trying to be obedient.
In Chirst.

Chris Fabry said...

Some have not been so positive about the list. One listener said that her husband in ministry left her for another woman and she prayed and asked God to bring them back together. Now, many years later, his ministry is back on track after a lot of work and repentance and forgiveness and grace. Another said this: That post-falling list is BS. There is a God who no longer condems us, even if all others sinfully do. There is a God who wipes away our sins, even if His followers do not. There is a God who still uses people whom men will no longer use, in the best and worst senses of the term...
I don't think Dr. E was saying this list is what HAS to happen, for we all sin. But I understand how looking at the list would make a person who has fallen in some way feel alienated. Thanks for the feedback.