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Chris Fabry
Married to Andrea since 1982. We have 9 children together and none apart. Our dog's name is Tebow.
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After finding and remediating mold twice in our Colorado home, we abandoned ship in October 2008. Because of the high levels of exposure, our entire family was affected. After months of seeing different specialists for all of the problems, we came to Arizona to begin comprehensive treatment to rid our bodies of the toxic buildup. In August 2009 we moved into a larger home, four bedrooms, south of Tucson, north of Mexico. I am doing my daily radio program/ writing from that location. Thanks for praying for us. We really feel it.

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013
I love talking with people who want to follow God with a whole heart. But it's painful to hear their stories and know how hard their lives are. Following God doesn't mean you won't get thrown to the lions. Obeying him fully won't keep you from imprisonment or crucifixion.

But you'll never regret obeying him, no matter how hard life gets.

Norma called yesterday. She's been living with a man for nine years. They have a child together. She became a Christian not long ago. Lately she's had this feeling that her relationship with this man isn't the best. He's a good guy, but he's not interested in God. And they're not married.

She went to a church and was counseled by a pastor. It's no big deal.

But that still, small voice is telling her there's something off, something not right.

I encouraged her to listen to that voice and surround herself with some people who want to help her obey God. I also encouraged her to separate from that live-in relationship.

I do not think this is going to be easy. Her heart is entangled with this man. Her child has a father and some would say it would be foolish to give that up. But I believe Norma has something better in front of her. And I have the faith to believe that this man who isn't interested in knowing God might consider eternal truths in a crisis like this.

But you can't manipulate people into the Kingdom. You can't cajole or finagle the grace of God. Norma's job, and yours, and mine, is to obey what God says because ultimately He has the best interests of Norma, her child, and the man she is living with at heart.

Say a prayer for Norma today. Say a prayer for her friend. For her child. Ask God to bring around her people who will care for all three of them through what will no doubt be one of the most difficult times of their lives.

And while you're praying, ask God to look in your own heart and point out something you need to obey, some way you need to follow more closely. He has a way of doing hard things that lead to good for his children.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

There are so many people in these relationships today, for one reason or another. Children, financial, even married people that one is a Christian and the other is not interested. It is a hard road to travel. I personally am a Christian, but my husband will do anything to avoid going to church or talking about Christ. I try, but I cannot force him to accept. I believe most his issue is fear of not knowing or understanding. I don't know what it will take for people like my husband to make the decision to come to Christ. He will go to church at times with me, but he remains locked. He is a good man in so many ways, but I worry about his salvation. I pray somewhere in his being, he has spoken to God and just doesn't want anyone to know. Is that crazy to think?

Chris Fabry said...

I don't think that's crazy at all to think. Once you're married and committed to this other person, you believe the best and you live your faith in front of him authentically. You hope all things, believe all things and love him. Sometimes love looks a little different, of course. It can be tough. But I appreciate your words here.

Anonymous said...

Now there's a lady my heart goes out to. I know her pain - all too well. Everything, everything, every single solitary thing gets so messed up when God isn't in His proper place in our hearts.
EDD in Indy

jane k. said...

Your words, Chris, encourage the woman to put her trust in God. Isn't this what the question is? She must believe, as you have said, that these "tugs" are from him and lead to everything good, even though we still want to put our trust in what we can now "see." I have prayed for her and thank you for sharing Truth with her.